PourSpelur Posted November 8, 2015 Report Share Posted November 8, 2015 It's been said before but I'll throw my 2¢ in. It's tough. Been there. Glad you guys are doing it right. For me it was the realization that I didn't want Little Man to see what his Mother and I had and think it's normal to be unhappy. The right choice is rarely the easy one. Keep the good attitude and know you're not alone;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scottshoemaker Posted November 13, 2015 Author Report Share Posted November 13, 2015 Moving out this weekend. At least I don't have a lot to move. More totes of gaming stuff than clothes! lol. They are away at the beach so at least my kids won't be there to watch. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chappy Posted November 13, 2015 Report Share Posted November 13, 2015 Moving out this weekend. At least I don't have a lot to move. More totes of gaming stuff than clothes! lol. They are away at the beach so at least my kids won't be there to watch.Ugh. Stay strong bro. I cannot imagine what this is like for you. Message me on FB if you need to just BS. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChaosGerbil Posted November 15, 2015 Report Share Posted November 15, 2015 I'm really sorry to hear that. Whatever you do, don't beat yourself up. This will take some time to process. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fluger Posted November 20, 2015 Report Share Posted November 20, 2015 I have nothing to offer but hope that things will get better. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blasto Posted November 23, 2015 Report Share Posted November 23, 2015 I am sorry to see this bad news, and you are 100% right, it does suck. But, from what I've read in this thread, you are taking the right steps. My Brothers was a horrible one, his ex wanted to do every dirty trick possible. While sadden to hear the news, I'm glad to hear it will be a "quite" type vs the other types I've seen. I hope things go well for you, and you get back on your feet quickly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted November 26, 2015 Report Share Posted November 26, 2015 I'm most worried about my kids. That was the hardest thing was to tell them. They didn't take it well when we told them, but they seem to be dealing with it ok. I'm sure it will be difficult when I finally move out at the end of the month. . Make sure you tell them why it happened. Not the long time coming bit, but the final incident. When my folks divorced, the truth took too long to reveal itself and I came to my own conclusions. You might think it was a long time coming, but to them, that long degrading road was normal and just part of driving, so when the road ends they are surprised despite how obvious it may be in hindsight. To them, you fighting or being miserable together is just something that parents do, you separating is something new. Just explain your reasoning on why that piece of straw broke the camel's back. When I finally got my dad to explain, it all made sense and we were able to move on. Things that don't make sense will create chaos in a young mind (and with most adults) - don't let the divorce be one of those things for your kids. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scottshoemaker Posted February 3, 2016 Author Report Share Posted February 3, 2016 Dating in my 40's is actually pretty damn cool. Turns out having a job, having a car, and not living with my mom are huge bonuses! 9 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dalmer Posted February 3, 2016 Report Share Posted February 3, 2016 Hello there, Not making light of anything, as my intent is not to comment on your specific situation. I have been divorced as well and went through the ups and downs associated with it. But you know what? "Nothing ends nicely... that's why it ends." After 5+ years of post-divorce under my belt, life's never been better for me or the kids. Look at the wonderful opportunities you have and have your own relationships with the kids and things will be alright. Stay safe, don Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PumpkinHead Posted February 3, 2016 Report Share Posted February 3, 2016 Dating in my 40's is actually pretty damn cool. Turns out having a job, having a car, and not living with my mom are huge bonuses! Apparently you haven't told your dates about your action figures that you play with.... 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scottshoemaker Posted February 3, 2016 Author Report Share Posted February 3, 2016 I have a very strict vetting process. If they don't tell me I'm an idiot, they get to see me again. Yeah, I went there. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Raindog Posted February 5, 2016 Report Share Posted February 5, 2016 I have a very strict vetting process. If they don't tell me I'm an idiot, they get to see me again. Yeah, I went there. And if they don't tell you about their cat babies......... 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pretre Posted February 12, 2016 Report Share Posted February 12, 2016 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
InfestedKerrigan Posted February 12, 2016 Report Share Posted February 12, 2016 Dating in my 40's is actually pretty damn cool. Turns out having a job, having a car, and not living with my mom are huge bonuses! We are roommates, and split the bills/rent 50/50, thank you very much! 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scottshoemaker Posted March 4, 2016 Author Report Share Posted March 4, 2016 Why do I keep this thread alive? Cause it's like therapy, only cheaper and I give a [big bad swear word] at the response I get! Things are moving along, and barring some budgetary constraints I'm happier than I thought I'd be. Hopefully I can get some projects posted (poor excuses being GTA and World of Tanks, good excuses being time with kids and a great girlfriend). Now that I'm committed to OFCC it should be good motivation to avoid some paint shaming! 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DisruptiveConduct Posted March 4, 2016 Report Share Posted March 4, 2016 love to see any new projects you work on, sir! your ork vehicles are always entertaining. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Raindog Posted March 4, 2016 Report Share Posted March 4, 2016 I would love to see more pictures of your projects, too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lord Hanaur Posted March 12, 2016 Report Share Posted March 12, 2016 I was the kid who got adopted into a family that then got a divorce. Wow. Talk about rejection! I was uber careful about who I hitched myself to after all that fun. Divorced parents tha hate each other is terribad news. So I sure hpe you guys dn't go that direction. The divorce is a lot easier to handle when the adults remain adults about it. Mine weren't and it wasn't good. So if there's any wisdom I can share after 20 years of being with my wife, I would say this: hold the GF to an incredibly high standard. After all, dating is just an audition. And get along with the X. The kids will appreciate it a lot. Like a lot. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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